to bring them inside.
The children wanted to leave the backpack outside until after school. She told them they needed to bring it with them. She was quite surprised to find a kitten inside the backpack.
The principal happened to tell my co-school counselor about the kitten. Then my co-school counselor came to find me so she could show me what the principal had in her office.
Saying that I am a cat person would probably be an understatement.
I took the kitten, box and all to my school counseling office. Is it wrong that I have secretly always wanted to have a cat in my office at school?! I even made a joke to the principal that it could be a therapy cat, but she wasn't going
for it. ;)
I wrestled with what to do. Part of me really wanted to take the kitten home, but the kitten needed medical care before I was willing to take it home to be with my cats.
I finally decided to take the kitten to the humane society. I felt bad but, but my gut was telling me it was the right thing to do. I wanted the kitten to have a good life and not be on the streets. I thought about my own cats at home and how much joy they bring me. I adopted them both from the humane society and I wanted to provide this kitten the same opportunity.
So, at the end of the day I loaded the kitten up in my car and drove to the humane society. When I stepped in the door, I was overcome with sadness... not only about the kitten I was bringing, but about so much more.
As a school counselor, some days are sad and unexpected in ways you could not imagine. Sometimes things hit you and you don't even know why you are sad, but you are just sad about the situation. Sometimes something happens that is just the icing on the cake. Sometimes something happens that makes you see things in a new light.
Sometimes you end up doing the thing that makes you feel sad, but you know it is the right thing.
Danielle is a K-12 Certified School Counselor, Nationally Certified Counselor, and blogger at School Counselor Blog, a place where school counselors share innovative ideas, creative lesson plans, and quality resources. Connect with Danielle via email, follow her on twitter, add her on LinkedIn or Google+, and become a fan of the School Counselor Blog Facebook Page.
This post makes ME sad! And as a serious cat-person who also secretly (or not so secretly) wants one in her office too, I'm particularly taken by your title as it applies to students too. When a grad student recently asked in class about the hardest part of being a counselor, my answer was in the same vein as your thoughts here. It's so hard sometimes to be invested without being enmeshed. Here's the post I then wrote for my Intro class -http://introtocounselingbetweenclasses.blogspot.com/2011/09/powerful-and-powerless.html
ReplyDeleteI made the title ambiguous because there are many times when you wish you could take students home, but you can't. I agree, it goes right back to feeling powerless...
ReplyDeleteI totally thought of kids when I saw your title, Danielle, as I had one today that I just wanted to take home . . . a little 5, a VERY young 5, that I got to visit with and TOTALLY fell in love with. Me: Tell me about your family. Student: "I have one cat, two dogs, one mom and NO dads at my house." It just breaks my heart, so much for a little guy to process and understand. And then I marvel at the awesomeness of my role in his life . . . to empower and equip. No wonder I'm exhausted!
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This story makes me so sad :( It definitely relates to the blog posts regarding feeling powerful and powerless. When working as a Direct Care Counselor at Castlewood Treatment Center I always wanted to do more for the clients than was actually possible. Leaving work at the end of the day was one of the most difficult things for me to do. I'm hoping to learn more ways to avoid burn out, practicing self care, and understanding the limitations and responsibilities of counselors in CSL 452. Dr. Mason, when you said in class that it takes not only the work and research in a program like the Community Counseling program at DePaul, but also practice and experience, it definitely helped me to understand how important it is to incorporate work in the field and education, while reflecting on your self, beliefs, skills, and practice, in order to become a good counselor.
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